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Tuesday, July 15, 2014

My husband wants a baby right now and I'm not sure I do...



My husband has been telling me for years now that he wants a second child. I was so young when we had our first child. I was 20 and he was 22. Now I'm 24 and my husband is 26. We are at a much more acceptable age for children. I also understand not wanting our children to be too far apart in age. Sometimes I think it would be nice to have another child. I would especially love a little girl to dress up and share girly experiences with. However, I only want to have 2 children (My husband would like 3, but he says he's okay with only having 2) and I don't see the rush.

I have my reasons for not wanting to have a child right now and I think they're pretty valid reasons. For starters, I am very overweight. My first pregnancy was terrible. I gained a ton of weight and have never been able to shed those pounds. I had horrible morning sickness for the first 6 months. I got so swollen, I had trouble walking up the stairs (my husband had to help me). I could barely get up from the couch to get myself a drink of water. I know that being overweight will only make this worse. I would like to lose some weight first.

My other reason for not wanting a child right now has to do with the little one that we already have. He is quite the little terror. My husband isn't the one who stays home and takes care of him. And he seems to forget that on the rare occasion that he does watch him, he tells me how completely exhausted he is afterwards. Having another child is only going to make things more stressful for me during the day while my huband isn't there to help watch both of them. Don't get me wrong, he's a great husband and father. He loves kids and he was super helpful and supportive with our first one. But there are those 8.5 hours when he's at work that I would have to watch them by myself.

Earlier this year, my sister's 'daycare' (her mother-in-law) was out of town for 3 weeks and I went to her house and watched her 6-month-old son. I had to bring my son with me. It was completely exhausting! I needed a break after 3 weeks and at night, there were 3 of us to take care of 2 kids. That gives me no hope for when we actually have 2 children. However, if we can just wait until our little boy is a little more mature and he can take care of himself more. He's a couple months older now, but he still isn't mature enough for me to bring another child into our house. We also have a psycho dog...

Well, all that being said, I did have unprotected sex with my husband this week. And we'll probably continue to do so for a while. If we get pregnant, that's fine. If not, that's fine, too.

Wednesday, June 25, 2014

Rant about puppies!!!

Hey everyone! In case you didn't notice the title, this will be a rant about puppies. Now, puppies can be super annoying sometimes, but this is more about people who want a puppy. I was going through my newsfeed yesterday evening on Facebook when I saw a girl who posted a status asking if anyone knew of any FREE puppies.

I will start off by giving you a little background on this 'woman' that posted this. She is 19, a high school dropout with a daughter. She is pregnant with a second child (2 months after she gave birth). Neither she nor her 'fiance' have a job. They don't have a real place to live. They bounce around from house to house, living with friends and family that will take them in. They have no source of transportation and the public bus system sucks where they live. Just a couple weeks ago, she was complaining on Facebook about how she didn't have enough money to buy her daughter ibuprofen when she was sick. FYI: I'm not saying that I know everything about this girl, but she is definitely the inspiration for this post. I do, however, know that the information I have given you about her is accurate. She's 'family'.

Now, knowing all of this, does it piss anyone else off that she wants to get a puppy to surprise her daughter and her baby daddy? I mean seriously, do people not realize just how expensive it is to have a dog? I have a dog and one thing I can tell you is that it's not particularly cheap. There are just so many things you have to buy:
monthly medication (for fleas and heartworms)
toys (and yes, all dogs need toys!)
bowls
food
treats
collar
leash
yearly doctors visits (or more frequent with a pup)
vaccines
spaying or neutering
and SOOOOO much more...
plus if you go anywhere, you have to board them...which you have to pay for!!!

Plus, they need so much more than just things you can buy for them. They need love and attention. How exactly do you give it the kind of love and attention a puppy will need when you have a newborn and you're pregnant with another child? Puppies need so much more attention that grown dogs. I got a dog when my son was 3 1/2 and in hind sight, we probably should have waited a little longer to get a dog. Dogs need outdoor playtime. They need stability. They need people that can truly take care of them. Please, please, please don't get a dog unless you know you can take care of it!

Monday, June 9, 2014

My new clutch

It took about 18 days to get here. And if you're anything like me, it will drive you crazy that tracking things coming from overseas are just ridiculous to track. However, the product is absolutely adorable! And completely affordable!! How does it get any better than that??



If you would also like to purchase your adorable and affordable clutch/iPhone 5 case, you can get yours here for under $5!

Friday, April 11, 2014

I'm back!

Ok, so for the past 3 weeks, I have been ridiculously busy. My sister's usual 'daycare' (her mother-in-law) was out of town for 3 whole weeks on vacation so I volunteered to look after her adorable little 7-month-old baby. I went there for 3 days, then came home and cooked a bunch of food, had my son's kids birthday party, went to another kid's birthday party, went back to my sister's house for 4 days, then came back home and cooked a bunch more food, had my son's family birthday party, and then went back to my sister's house for 10 days. Now I am finally back to my own house taking care of only my son. It's exhausting watching a 7-month-old baby, a 4-year-old, and a dog.
Well, while I was at my sister's house, we played all day. There were feedings and nappings. You know, the usual. The only day we didn't do that was for my son's actual birthday. I wanted him to feel special so we went to a couple places. However, we were doing things most nights. There were thank you cards being written, shopping to do, easter bunnies to see, etc. You get the idea.
So while this may seem like some big ol' excuse, it is. I haven't kept up with my blog posts. Don't worry, dear readers. I'll get back on track. To keep you from being angry with me, I'll show you a picture of the adorable creatures I was taking care of:

Wednesday, March 26, 2014

How I Made My Son's Birthday Special

Two days ago, my big boy turned 4. I had agreed to help my sister out by watching her 6-month-old baby while her usual day care (her mother-in-law) was out of town for 3 weeks. Well, I had to bring my son with me since I'm a stay-at-home mom. And his birthday fell on a Monday so we were at my sister's house for the special day. I tried to make it as extraordinary as I could.

I started by making a special birthday breakfast of funfetti pancakes with a candle on top. They were seriously delicious.



We then had a special FaceTime session with Daddy. He had to stay at home so that he could go to his job. Lucky for us, he didn't work until late in the day so Owen and Daddy could spend a little time with each other virtually for his birthday. They even watched cartoons together.

For lunch, we went to Chuck E Cheese where we met my sister. We ate some pizza and Owen played games. We only stayed for about an hour (because there were so many kids there for spring break and really, that's all I can handle).



After the little guy (my nephew) took a nap, we made our way to the mall so that Owen could play in the play area. We spent about 45 minutes there.



Then, for dinner, we had what the new 4-year-old wanted. He wanted corn and broccoli. We also had some other things, but the corn and broccoli are specifically what he ordered. My other sister came over so it was like a mini party.

Then, he opened up a birthday gift that my husband and I had gotten him. It was a movie (Despicable Me 2) and a minion toy to go with it. He also had a gift from a family friend that he was able to open.

We then had some leftover birthday cake from his party on Saturday.

After that, Owen watched his movie on my laptop.



He finished off the day with a call from his dad to say Happy Birthday and good night.

I think my son was happy with how the day turned out and so was I. I didn't want my son to feel like he wasn't important. And that easily could have happened since he's a pretty independent child and I was taking care of a baby. With a little effort on my part, my little man had one great birthday.

Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Project365: Week 12

Another busy week. My son's birthday party was on Saturday. We had another kid's party to go to on Sunday. And then I was back at my sister's house to watch her son this week.

Wednesday, March 19th

My son and nephew. Aren't they adorable?

Thursday, March 20th

The cutest little boy that I get to watch for 3 weeks.

Friday, March 21st

The worn out boy after taking care of his cousin for a week.

Saturday, March 22nd

This is Owen at his birthday party playing with one of our neighbors.

Sunday, March 23rd

and this is at the birthday party we attended the day after Owen's.

Monday, March 24th

This is Owen having fun on his actual birthday.

Tuesday, March 25th

They play so nicely together.

Keep on photographing, readers!

Monday, March 24, 2014

My Son's Birthday!

Today is my son's birthday! He is now 4. If you look at my posts, most of them probably say something about 'my 3-year-old son'. That's because my world revolves around him and everything he does. One of the great things about being a stay-at-home mom is that I get to spend every waking moment with him. Sometimes he gets on my nerves or we don't get along, but what mother-son relationship isn't like that every now and then. For the most part though, he is my little ray of sunshine. His smile lights up a room. I love that kid. Here's a look back at the best 4 years of my life thus far.